True trust leads to approachability and open communications.
Being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us. We can give no greater gift to others than putting them at ease.
The above sayings reflect the approachability principle. You put yourselves questions such as: Have I ever met anyone famous? What was it like? Was it exciting to me, or did it turn out to be surprisingly ordinary? Was I disappointed then, or was it even better than I expected? Did I connect with the person, or was I treated like a nuisance? Or was I so intimidated that I was unable to even try to talk to the person? The quality of any first time meeting experience – whether or not people are famous – depends largely on their approachability.
For that matter, what about you? Can the people who are closest to you talk about closely anything? When was the last time somebody brought you bad news? Or sturdily disagreed with your point of view on an issue? Or challenged you about something you did wrong? If it has been a while, you may not be a very approachable person.
Certain people treat the idea of becoming approachable as playful; it’s a nice thing if one can be bothered to cherish it. But really it’s much more than that. It is an influential asset to have in one’s relational toolbox.
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How to put people at Comfort
To be approachable, it is not enough to love people in system. The need is to generate personal warmth towards the people you meet. As Christian Bovee said, “Kindness is a language the dumb can speak and the deaf can hear and understand”. You must be able to appreciate people for who they are and what they have to offer. Appreciating the differences of others can do the same for you.
Approachable people display a consistency of mood. They are even-keeled and predictable. You know what you are going to get because they are basically the same every time you see them. Although, approachable people are emotionally steady, that does not mean they expect others to be that way. Consequently, they tune in to the moods and feelings of others, and they quickly adjust how they relate to others.
Approachable people are honest about their abilities and shortcomings. They are willing to be told not what they want to hear but what they need to hear. They are also able to forgive easily and quickly ask for forgiveness. It makes people humble and authentic. So make yourself approachable.